Advice
Read these forums, read triplet blogs, read books on parenting multiples (when you are pregnant this is a good time, you will have A LOT less time when the babies are here), but don't feel you have to follow everyone's advice. Take what works for your family and leave the rest.
Pregnancy
Now is the time to take things very easy, eat a lot, relax and sleep as much as you can. Do not feel guilty about it and don't worry about your weight. Losing it should be easier than you think (for me, I was back to my pre-pregnancy weight two weeks post-partum - way faster than I was with my two older girls) and if it's not, deal with that later. Right now you need to give your babies as much time in the womb as possible and as much weight on their bodies as you can. Everything else is secondary. Being pregnant with triplets is painful, boring, stressful, and scary. You only have so much control over what will happen, but take control over the things you can (that's pretty much your activity level and what you eat).
Recovery
Recovery is tough. Take things slowly and ask for help. You'll feel like you have a million things to do, but concentrate on yourself and the babies. Let the other stuff go - because that is plenty!
Breastfeeding
Breastfeeding preemies is very different from breastfeeding full term babies. Preemies don't often get it right away and it may take longer for your milk to come in. When you are in the hospital, put your babies to the breast every three hours and pump every three hours. Pumping hurts so use Lansinoh cream - it made a huge difference for me. When I was in the hospital, I was tired and I was overwhelmed and I was tempted to just scrap it, but I'm glad I didn't.Take advantage of the lactation consultants (they are a huge help in getting the babies to latch on correctly and teaching tandem nursing). I had some nurses who assumed that because I had triplets I was not breastfeeding and some who thought if I was breastfeeding the babies shouldn't get a bottle and it was frustrating. I had one great nurse who was wonderful about bringing the babies to me every three hours and by the time we came home, the two that were coming home with me had it down. My guy in the NICU only got to try once a day, but he did get the hang of it.
The biggest mistake I think I made was not pumping after the first month. I really didn't like doing it, it was inconvenient, and it seemed easier to nurse a baby than to pump. For the first four months, about 1/3 of the babies' diet was breastmilk. I think I could've increased that if I had been pumping. Around four months, all three of my babies started to resist nursing and by seven months they were completely done. I wonder now if I had pumped, if I could have kept them going a little longer. I know I could have at least provided more breastmilk in a bottle if I had. While I would recommend pumping, I think it's more important to give yourself a break and not feel guilty about things that don't work. If breastfeeding isn't something you want to try or you just feel like it's one more thing on your plate, it's okay.
The first weeks home
This is the hardest time and it will pass before you know. But when you are in the middle of sleep deprivation, trying to establish schedules, and taking care of three babies whose needs are all over the map, the best you can do is take it one day at a time. We had live-in help (my mom) for the first 6 weeks and if you can arrange for something like that, do it.
Don't worry about the babies waking each other up. If they are always in the same room, they'll get used to each other and they won't wake each other up. At least not much.
Don't forget to take pictures and video. Our first video of the babies wasn't until they were 6 weeks old. We do have plenty of photos from that time, but were just too busy surviving to even think about taking videos. I wish we had.
Don't forget yourself: take the time to eat and take the time to go to the bathroom. It sounds silly, but you get so busy that you will forget to do these things. I got a UTI when the babies were just 4 or 5 weeks old and it was not fun. You'll be a better parent if you take care of yourself, too.
Schedules: Naps and Night time
The few triplet parents we spoke to (and the advice in the books and the boards) said that getting the babies on the same schedule was the trick. I absolutely agree, but those first four weeks, I just thought HOW? The babies slept at random times and I just didn't see a schedule taking shape even though we would wake the babies at the same time. All I can say is, it will come. Just be patient.
Start as you plan to go (if you don't plan to have three 2-year-olds in your bed, don't bring three newborns in your bed) but you can make exceptions in the first month. Whatever you can do to get a little extra sleep, do. For us, that often meant going to sleep with a baby on our chest. But, that didn't last long (and I definitely wouldn't make a habit out of that sort of thing).
When the babies are still needing to be fed every 3-4 hours, sleep in shifts. My husband slept from 8pm - 3am and I slept from 3 am - 8 am (I got to sleep longer on the weekends, but I had to get up with our older girls). You need to get at least 4-5 hours of sleep a night or you won't be able to think straight and sleep deprivation (even with getting 4+ hours a sleep a night) just makes everything harder.
If you can afford it, hire someone to help at night. We didn't do this, but if you can find someone you are comfortable with I think it would be a wonderful idea. You only need someone to do this a few times a week (even once a week would be great) and only for 3-4 months and it will give you a much needed break. If you can't, consider giving each other a full night sleep from time to time. It's worth a whole night of being on with the babies to get a full night's sleep yourself.
If you can afford it, hire a cleaning service. If you can't, do what needs to be done and try to relax about the rest.
Once they are starting to sleep a little longer at night, put the babies in their own room. It might even be a good idea to start out with the babies in their own room. For us, it worked to have them in our room at first. We moved them into their own room at 8 weeks, but I'd probably do it at 4 or 5 weeks. You won't be waking up at every little noise they make and you'll sleep better.
For scheduling, I recommend Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child and Babywise. If you can, read them while you are pregnant because you won't have time to read it when you really need the information. If your babies are already here, the advice in a nutshell, is: put your babies down for nap after they have been awake for 1-2 hours. (For us, they are up one hour before the morning nap and then two hours before the second nap and two hours before the third nap, and one-two hours before bedtime). Babywise is written by the parent of triplets and they have a whole chapter on multiples.
Some books will tell you to stagger schedules so each baby gets one-on-one time. That will just leave you exhausted. It is nice to get a little one-on-one time, but to get a break and actually be able to get things done, the best advice is to get them sleeping at the same time.
Good sleep helps create more good sleep. When your babies have good naps, they'll sleep better at night.
Earlier bedtimes (6:30-7pm) encourages longer sleeping at night. Don't put them to bed late hoping they'll sleep later. It seems like that should work, but it doesn't. Don't wait until they are overtired to put them to sleep. They will cry a little when you first establishing routines, but they will cry so much less in the long run. How much to let your baby cry is a personal choice. I never let my two singletons cry it out, but with triplets, I knew that I needed to help them become self-soothers. I think because we started early, they never cried for very long. With my other two, when they cried I heard a sad baby and a baby who wanted her mom and dad. Now, I hear a baby who is tired and needs to sleep. That said, I do go into my babies and hold them if they are crying hard or their cry sounds different from the normal tired cry.
Babysitters
For the first three months, we would ask a mom who had a daughter who was babysitting age to babysit and that worked wonderfully. After the babies had a set bedtime and were sleeping well (around 3 1/2 months), we started hiring one babysitter to come after the babies had gone to bed.
Older siblings
Babysitters and Bedtimes. It gives you time with the older children and keeps your life from disintegrating into total chaos.
Exercise
Don't worry about this for the first few months - or until you are feeling strong enough. But, once you are feeling up to it, take time to exercise. It will help you feel better and sleep better. If you can, get a gym membership with good daycare, or have someone watch your babies while you go to the gym, or do a DVD while the babies nap, or just take the babies out for walks every day. Start slow and be easy on yourself, but make yourself and your health a priority.
Misc Tips
Create your own blackout curtains (I bought this white blackout fabric at Joann's http://www.joann.com/joann/catalog.jsp?CATID=cat3217&PRODID=prd31268 when it was on sale). We have them in our babies room and in our room. You don't want the sun waking up your babies or you when sleep is hard to come by! I sewed the fabric to the back of our curtains in our bedroom and just made curtains with the actual fabric in our babies' room.
Don't feel the need to buy everything now. You'll want some diapers, onesies, sleepers, burp cloths, and blankets. And, I would recommend three boppies. Those were a life saver for feeding all the babies by yourself. For diapers, I recommend Pampers for the preemie size and Pampers or Luvs for Newborn size. For some reason, Huggies are terrible for preemie and newborn size (we love them for the larger sizes, though).
Take time to enjoy your babies! They really grow so fast and won't be this little or this helpless for long.
I have five kids including triplets. I'm too busy to blog, but I do anyway (uh, sometimes).
Koyaanisqatsi
when it comes to the competition, i got none
big news
so far
1-2-3
testing
important news
The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Timeb...
july-december 2006 reading
March 2005
April 2005
May 2005
June 2005
July 2005
August 2005
September 2005
October 2005
November 2005
December 2005
January 2006
February 2006
March 2006
April 2006
May 2006
June 2006
July 2006
August 2006
September 2006
February 2007
March 2007
April 2007
May 2007
April 2008
July 2008
August 2008
October 2008
November 2008
February 2009
Chicken Paco
He's a complicated Jew
(red)chardonnay
Tales of Strude
Sarah&Jeremy
Thus Spoke Crapples (RIP)
Strange Pulse
Viva Ned Flanders
Don't Let's Start
Every Day I Write the Book
Ethesis
Scone
Monastery of Idealism
[ Group Blogs ]
Unofficial Manifesto
Mormon Mentality
Tales From The Crib
Nine Moons
Mormon Mommy Wars
Millennial Star
By Common Consent
Times & Seasons
Sarah's Quilt
by Nancy Turner
May
Maus
by Art Spiegelman
Housekeeping
by Marilynne Robinson
April
These Is My Words
by Nancy Turner
The Myth of You and Me
by Leah Stewart
March
Inconceivable
by Ben Elton
Songbook
by Nick Hornby
Follies
by Ann Beattie
February
About a Boy
by Nick Hornby
High Fidelity
by Nick Hornby
Stargirl
by Jerry Spinelli
January
Revolutionary Road
by Richard Yates
Morality for Beautiful Girls
by Alexander McCall Smith
A Long Way Down
by Nick Hornby
How to be Good
by Nick Hornby
Mere Christianity
by C. S. Lewis
December
The Book of Mormon
The Know-It-All
by A. J. Jacobs
Endurance
by Alfred Lansing
November
The Secret Life of Bees
by Sue Monk Kidd
September
Kite Runner
by Khaled Hosseini
The Good Earth
by Pearl S. Buck
August
Freedom of Simplicity
by Richard Foster
Pride and Prejudice
by Jane Austen
July
Celebration of Discipline
by Richard J. Foster
Peace Like A River
by Leif Enger
Things Fall Apart
by Chinua Achebe
Gap Creek
by Robert Morgan
June
Life of Pi
by Yann Martel
My Name is Asher Lev
by Chaim Potok
A Prayer for Owen Meany
by John Irving
All New People
by Anne Lamott
May
Patrimony: A True Story
by Philip Roth
Raise High the Roof Beam, Carpenters
by J. D. Salinger
Good Faith
by Jane Smiley
Cradle and Crucible History and Faith in the Middle East
by National Geographic Society
April
Saturday
by Ian McEwan
Blue Shoe
by Anne LaMott
Emma
by Jane Austen
Operation Shylock
by Philip Roth
March
Jane Austen: A Life
by Claire Tomalin
To See and See Again
by Tara Bahrampour
Reading L0l1ta in Tehran
by Azar Nafisi
February
A Thomas Jefferson Education
by Oliver Van Demille
Still Alive
by Ruth Kluger
Not The Germans Alone
by Isaac Levendel
World War II: A Photographic History
by David Boyle
The Screwtape Letters
by C.S. Lewis
Persuasion
by Jane Austen
January
Climbing Parnassus
by Tracey Lee Simmons
With The Old Breed
by E. B. Sledge
All But My Life
by Gerda Weissmann Klein
We Die Alone
by David Howarth