what not to do
I've learned a lot from the boys I've dated. None of it does me much good now that I'm married, but I like to think if I hadn't made the mistakes I did, it wouldn't have been as easy finding Mr. Right. These are my lessons learned:
- 1 - Don't date boys who listen to Janet Jackson or care too much about their hair.
2 - Don't date your ex-boyfriend's best friend. He'll care too much about his hair, too.
3 - Don't talk about every boy you've ever liked and every girl he's ever liked. It's too much information.
4 - Don't be someone's secret - even if they are your secret, too. It's not a good thing.
5 - Don't date someone who tells you that if you break up with them, they'll start doing drugs again. Run as fast as you can.
6 - Don't buy presents that are too expensive - you think you are being thoughtful, but it's needy. Buy a good book.
7 - Don't date someone who makes it your full time job to say no.
8 - Don't date non-mormons. I'm sure there are lots of nice boys with good values who aren't mormons. My experiences with #4, #5 and #8 led me to believe it was a better deal all around just not to be with someone who doesn't respect that you are waiting. Plus, it had been pounded into my head since I was about six to marry a Returned Missionary in the temple (turned out to be great advice for me) and "you marry who you date".
9 - Don't date someone who is more focused on you (and massaging your hand to death) than the movie when you go to see Rattle and Hum. If he doesn't respect U2, how can you respect him?
10 - Don't loan the guy money - no matter how cute he is, how much he says he needs grocery money, or how many times he tells you he'll pay you back. He won't. You are no longer his girlfriend, but some girl he owes money to.
11 - Don't date boys who wear boxer shorts with leather jackets. Just trust me on this one.
12 - Don't date someone who wants you to get jealous when he talks about other girls, who wants to analyze the relationship and is always asking, "Where is this relationship going? Do you really like me?" I've had roommates like this, but I didn't think guys did this.
Man, I'm glad I wasn't dating in the age of email and instant messaging. How many rash mistakes do people make because of this technology?
